Sure, I had money saved up to pay for it. But now, my "miscellaneous fund" and my "vacation fund" balances are pretty low and I just realized I won't have any money to replenish it in December. $haronRose just recently tweaked her budget to create a new "me" fund and I commented since it was so hard and slow to save my "me" fund, I always thought twice before blowing it. Uhhhhh... yeah. That makes me a hypocrite.
Anyhow, while I'm wallowing in this Day-After hangover, I got a call from my BFF. And it looks like I've wimped myself into yet another spending bonanza weekend.
This is how the discussion went down:
BFF: My DH is in the doghouse right now.
Shtinky: Why? What happened?
BFF: Our plumbing backed up last year and we got an estimate of $5,000 to repair it. But since we didn't have the money and this repair can wait, we held off. Our plumbing backed up again and my DH called a plumber for an estimate. DH couldn't get a hold of me so he let the plumber make the repairs and he put $8,000 on our credit card!
Shtinky: Well, it needed to be repaired anyways, right?
BFF: I'm pissed off because: (a) he didn't negotiate the price, (b) the repairs could've waited and (c) he unilaterally did this without discussing it with me first!
Shtinky: Yeah, that sucks. But at least he didn't charge frivolous stuff, right?
BFF: I'm so mad at him. I don't want to look at him and I don't want to speak to him right now. I need to get away. Let's have a girls' getaway spa weekend!
Shtinky: [Internal dialogue] WTF? Weren't you just pissed that he charged some stuff and now you want to spend more money on frivolous stuff? Are you crazy woman???
Shtinky: [Actual dialogue] Yeah! Let's do it!
For brevity's sake I won't go into details of the other reasons why DH is in the doghouse with BFF. But the bottomline is, BFF is livid (some justified, others not so much) and she wants some frivolous fun time away from hubby (partly to punish him, I suspect).
As you may know, I have this frustrating inability to say, "No," to frivolous spending with my family. I have less difficulty saying, "No," to my friends, but I found it difficult to turn my BFF down this time.
During the past couple of years, BFF underwent numerous major surgeries and is finally healthy (read: pain free) enough to go to a spa for some R & R. Since she lives 120 miles away, I don't get to see her as often as I'd like. I've always felt guilty not taking time away from work to be by her side during at least one of her surgeries. Had this been anyone else, I think (although I'm not too sure) that I would've suggested doing something cheaper.
Anyhow, our plan isn't THAT extravagant. My BFF found a great package for $289 (which will be split equally) that includes:
- Overnight deluxe accommodations
- Two (2) premium signature cocktails (per reservation)
- One (1) $50- giftcard from Chi-Chi Mall (which we'll use for food)
- Two (2) 50- minute massages at The Spa
She sounds very excited and happy about our girls' weekend. And to be honest with you, so am I. It's often frustrating not being able to say "no" to frivolous spending but sometimes not saying "no" is worth it.